Do you find goods in others instead of flaws?

An elderly Chinese woman had two large pots, each hung on the ends of a pole, which she carried across her neck.

One of the pots had a crack in it while the other pot was perfect and always delivered a full portion of water, at the end of the long walk from the stream to the house, the cracked pot arrived only half full.

For a full two years this went on daily, with the woman bringing home only one and a half pots of water. Of course, the perfect pot was proud of its accomplishments. But the poor cracked pot was ashamed of its own imperfection, and miserable that it could only do half of what it had been made to do.

After 2 years of what it perceived to be bitter failure, it spoke to the woman one day by the stream. “I am ashamed of myself, because this crack in my side causes water to leak out all the way back to your house.”

The old woman smiled, “Did you notice that there are flowers on your side of the path, but not on the other pot’s side?” “That’s because I have always known about your flaw, so I planted flower seeds on your side of the path, and every day while we walk back, you water them. For two years I have been able to pick these beautiful flowers to decorate the table. Without you being just the way you are, there would not be this beauty to grace the house.”

Each of us has our own unique flaw. But it’s the cracks and flaws we each have that make our lives together so very interesting and rewarding. You’ve just got to take each person for what they are and look for the good in them.

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24 responses to “Do you find goods in others instead of flaws?

    • your absolutely right.. my friend is disabled.. i always say to her.. so what if you can’t do this or that.. look at what you can do.. and what she can do she is dam good at it…

  1. Oh, I’ve heard of this story. And it’s a good one too. see the positive in an otherwise negative world. Like, when someone stole my laptop in december. My thought was, I hope he needed it for his child. It felt good thinking that way.

  2. Likke the story, being half china man I love the Chinese tales. They are unique. Human are unique species, they are filled with flaws. And we slowly improve towards progress as we aged. One day we may laearn we have all same flaws but unique in thoughts.

    It is difficult to say what is perfect as the criteria is not abide by any restrictions. We always are confused ourselves in self interest and love perhaps.

    • Mera bap there are no voids we checked… 😦 yeah my flaw is a phobia and yours is that you find it funny … Hon chup kar ja…. We are not talking about it anymore…. I’ll find someone else more sympathetic and sensitive to my feelings 😦

  3. A great re-telling of a classic and a valuable piece of wisdom, thank you.

    It is our cracks that make us who we are, unique, and they should be celebrated and cherished. I am perhaps more cracks now than pot but I’m always trying to find something positive to accomplish. A flaw in itself when goals are not carefully considered before being embarked upon.

    A great guy I used to see for NLP (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Neuro-linguistic_programming) once said to me that there is no such thing as failure, only feedback. i.e. If you don’t achieve something you set out to do then perhaps the goal or the methods taken to achieve it were not properly considered. Instead see it as an opportunity to re-consider your position and perhaps try something else, or (if it’s something you really *do* want) try altering the methods you used.

    ttfn

    • you are absolutely right… but don’t you think that is what people lack? is the knowledge to use other methods or even to realise that there is another way to do something and possibly achieve that goal…

  4. You are so right we all have all the traits good bad and ugly they come out as and when on situatio.s….

    We all have cracks that is what human is else we will all be god…

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