Each Day At A Time.

It takes a lifetime to realize many things in life then there are times it takes a split second for everything to hit you smack bang in the face.

Yeah, I know I’ve been away a while but things have been hectic of the past months. A family member is not keeping well. So trips in and out of hospital are now an ongoing thing. I’d love to go into more detail and tell you guys more about it but she reads this blog sometimes so I really have to respect her privacy.

But the stress of it all is sometimes too much to bear and banging heads of walls is not helping either. We are at a stage in the treatment where nothing is working. Time and again we are ending up back to square one with the side effects of each drug taking it’s toll on her body and mind.

It’s amazing how isolated one can feel in an illness when the world is full of ill people. Our weekly trips to the hospital shows just how ill some people are and how worse off. It brings it home that we are lucky our situation isn’t as serious as some but it’s still a situation and we are dealing with it. So each day as it comes is what they always say.

Someone asked the other day how after everything I go through how do I manage to be so strong and keep positive. I guess like always, I’m just grateful for what is positive in my life and try to see the rest as a test.

Other than this dominating our lives at the moment there’s nothing really else to tell you guys.

Oh yeah just remembered the wonderful Facebook deactivated my account so had to make a new one. Please if you were added in my old one or wish to be added in my new account then drop me a request. Miss you all.. here’s the link http://www.facebook.com/aneesa.bashir.71

 

 

 

Open Relationships – results

Not long ago I did a post asking you readers to define what in your opinion was an open relationship…

The reason I asked because as you all know I’m a Facebook freak and through using fb I end up ranting and raving about it. One of the things I noticed was that many guys and girls were using “open relationship” as their relationship status.

I kept thinking how can conservative/religious people and people from strict backgrounds and youngsters be in open relationships, it just didn’t make sense. I know the world is changing but I also know that many can’t be that open minded and then broadcast it openly on Facebook, because let’s face it most of us know what the definition is of an open relationship. If not then here it is…

An open relationship is when you are with someone yet are free to see other people. No, it’s not friends with benefits because this means you are not in a relationship with this person but simply get together when it suits you. Where as, an open relationship is where you are in a relationship with this person but you are also in agreement that it’s ok to see other people. Hope that clears it up for anyone who is having any confusion over this. The poll results I will tell you about in a minute.

So, going back to Facebook, I decided to ask a few of these people what they meant by stating publicly that they are in fact in an open relationship. One guy replied… “It means I am open to a relationship”… I had to stifle my giggles. I tried to explain to  him what it really meant but he thought he was right.. so I left him to it… let him be the despo plonker he sounds like…

Ok.. so.. anyway next person… (yeah he did piss me off.. I hate it when people don’t listen to me!) The next person I asked said “It means my relationship is open” This sounded better.. I ventured further and asked what do you really mean? (I thought… he doesn’t look that clever so let’s be sure he knows what he’s talking about) He then told me with great relish it means he is open to have sex with a girl. I asked “Do yo mean lots of girls?” He replies with astonishment “Have you no shame? Of course not… only one girl will be enough! If I can get one… I am open to lots of sex” ok enough said

A few others I asked thought it meant you are bisexual but none who displayed this as their status actually were in open relationships or knew exactly what it meant and not many wanted their partners sleeping with other people.

It was quite a day defining the true meaning to them.. I really should become a lecturer, I think I’d do a grand job!

So the final results of my poll… the question asked was…

A whopping 64% of you knew what the answer was and the rest of you were divided between friends with benefits or open to a relationship with no limits where anything goes. 4% of you thought it meant same sex and another 4% weren’t sure… so all in all most of you are aware of the definition… it’s just numpties on Facebook who don’t have a clue…

Has This Happened To You?

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This pic reminds of those times you see someone’s profile picture and think “WOW!!!! This person looks super hot/sexy” instantly your curiosity and interest is triggered. You send a friend request on FB or add them on twitter or google+. You can’t wait to talk to them finally they accept your request or you accept theirs if they had already sent one. Then you decide to take a closer look at their photo albums (because you just have to see more of this person) and feel the wind going out your sails.

Why do people do this? Put up amazing super awesome profile pics. Then put up albums of themselves that look nothing like their profile pics? Are you following me?

So what if one day the camera was kind to you and made you look like a film star/pop star/model… It isn’t really you!! You are leading people into an illusion that only leads to disappointment.

Either keep the illusion going that you are looking freakingly awesome and post pics of that calibre inside your profile as well… or… Just post pictures of where you look normal and the camera captured your natural normal everyday look and not your film star look. Then people like me won’t have that build up and let down that we get when we click on you.

Maybe I’m being a bit over the top but this is really starting to annoy me. Got it off my chest now so feel much better already ;)

What is the definition of an “open relationship”?

I put this question up on Facebook the other day and was surprised and shocked by some of the answers.

So just wanting to do some research on what you think the definition is of an open relationship… please take the time to cast your vote. Remember all answers will be anonymous.

Post and results will follow soon.

Me on My A to Z

Decided to do my own A to Z list… perhaps it will help my fellow bloggers to know more about me…

Bikram did his earlier and so did Eva so I’m tagging myself from both their posts.. :P

Here we go:

A. Make a list of 5 things that are in reach.
Gun, bullets, hacksaw, ice pick and knuckle dusters… er.. just kidding :P My 5 things within in reach are… toilet roll, toilet roll brush, toothbrushes and toothpaste and big tub of moisturizer… yes I’m in the loo but not doing what you are thinking… just hiding out coz the house is a little crowded at the moment and couldn’t find a quiet corner. ( I love this WordPress App in my iPhone ;) )
B. What is your favourite holiday?
My birthday… When I’m Queen (coz right now I’m a princess) it will be a national holiday.
C. What is your fashion style?
Silk frocks and my tiara.
D. What’s your occupation?
I don’t work because I don’t have to ( love saying that :P )
E. What do you hear right now?
My two nephews talking about ordering pizza the little ( whose 9 ) has offered ten pence towards his share and the older one isn’t amused.
F. Who was the last person you hugged?
My friend’s baby, he is so cute and only a year old. :P

G. What random song just popped in your head now?

Madonna – Vogue :P

H. What did you do today?
Dropped nephew at school, later picked niece up and took her to the orthodontist, went to Mcdonalds, came home, ate and then we both crashed on the sofas, with sky news in the background :)
I. What was the last text message you received?
Bank statement from bank.
J. What websites do you always visit when you go online?
Ok this is in order of how I open my sites first Facebook, my blog, google+ then youtube and then I open the site that I have come on for :P

K. What is your next big planned purchase?
A flat that needs renovating, sale will be complete in a months time, can’t wait.

L. If you could afford to go anywhere in the world, where would you go?
Niagar falls, Disney World Florida and I want to climb a mountain. (anyone will do :P)
M. Where do you see yourself in 5 years?
Very very happy :)

N. Where’s your tattoo/Where would you like a tattoo?
Don’t like them and would never get one.

O. What are you doing this weekend?
Sleeping and sleeping.

P. If you could play any musical instrument, which one would you play?
I play piano and harp :P

Q. What’s the one thing you need the most now?
A certain person to call me up and say hurry up and get here. :)
R. Are you a creeper?
What’s a creeper, I’ve never heard of it… is it someone who creeps around? It would never work for me, you can hear me before you see me. I’m just too loud.
S. What is your dream job?
A dream job would be able to boss everyone around and have so much power, be able to bring world peace. Stop all wars, famine and human atrocities.
T. What’s the last good movie you saw?
Bodyguard – Salman Khan and Kareena Kapoor… it was really funny and silly this movie.. then it got really touchy and feely.
U. What’s your favourite quote?
“To Be The Best”
“Tere sadgi mai itna hussan hai…. tera singhar kiya hoga …. tere gussay mai itna maza hai…. tera pyar kiya hoga”
V. What is your favourite colour?
Black and Pink
W. Give us three styling tips that always work for you:
Always keep tiara on.
Always make sure gowns are silk.
Always know what suits your body shape and size :P

X. Coffee or tea?
Neither.. Diet coke! :P

Y. What do you love to do when it is drizzling?
Drink diet coke and facebook and blog ( like now )

Z. What inspires you?
I am my own inspiration. :P

Please do take up the Tag and lets hear what you have to say ….


Moving On

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This week I walked away from a few things that had been very prominent in my life.

Sadly they just weren’t working out. I had to step back and look at things and realised why keep with something that was making me so unhappy. Was it really worth it?

Before it used to be because the good out weighed the bad but suddenly the good has got less and less and the fighting and arguing has got more and more. Then there is the fact that someone can just with one small action make you feel so insignificant and worthless. When did someone end up having that much power over you?

So I took the decision to try and move on and that meant cutting many things and a few people out of my life. I don’t know if it’s permanent or not but right now I know I have to step away just for my own sanity.

One of the decisions was deactivating my Facebook account. Cutting out things that were doing my head in was a good decision. Let’s hope I don’t get driven back to it.

Losing so many things at once is leaving me lost and a bit confused. I really don’t know if I’m coming or going. I’m not looking for shoulders to cry on, not really. What I am fed up of is being is shoulders for others with no return. How long can one keep on giving and giving? Eventually it just drains you leaving you exhausted and completely empty.

Im not gonna devastate over this too much… I truly believe if god doesn’t want my relationships to work maybe it’s because he has something better in store for me.

Here’s hoping, time will tell.